BDSM – An introductory discussion

I openly admit to being kinky.  I know lots of others do, too.  But what is kink?  What is BDSM?

My games and writing often have some slave-elements to them, which falls into “BDSM”. So I feel it only fair to warn you as to what I like, and what I write.

Not everyone has the same interests or definitions, so I’ll get some major things out of the way.

BDSM defined by me:

• B&D – Bondage and Discipline — Binding another and using various methods as discipline to shape the behaviors and actions of another.
• D&S – Dominance and Submission — Taking control from, and giving control to, another.
• S&M – Sadism and Masochism — Desire to inflict or receive discomfort (physical or emotional) from another.

Notice how there’s nothing sexual about those definitions.  BDSM does not have to involve sex, but for many people it is a wholly sexual experience.  (Your mileage may vary.)

I identify as a “switch”. I can give or receive any of the above, depending on my mood and urges.  I can write from either side of the cuff / whip / crop / rope.  Transformation (of varying types) also plays into much of my recreational work for the very same reasons.

The saying goes: “Write what you know.”  …and I do.

I expect my creations will have some sexual elements, with a strong focus on power-exchange and transformation. Some projects have stronger elements than others.  And I cannot name one project which is evenly balanced.

If these things are not to your liking, I’m okay with that.  Don’t decry what you do not like, simply avoid praise.  Little praise means little appreciation.

The slave games I’m creating will focus on those who’ve given up their power, or had it taken away from them.  When you have no power, you will become whatever another directs you to become.

Sometimes the fun is in struggling to maintain your power.  Sometimes the fun is in losing it.  What do you think? (A poll will be coming soon.)

– Cameron